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What Makes You You? Scars or wounds?

images-13Watching an animated movie yesterday, the thought shone on me after an unexpected discussion spilled off in the movie. Come on, let’s have it here.

Wounds can be physical or emotional, so also can scars.

Wounds are painful so are scars too.

Nobody wants to be wounded and also no one wants to be scard.

The wounded seek deliverance so does the scard.

Although many similarities does occur, I tried to figure out the difference between a scar and a wound and I got these:

Scars are darker than wounds.

It takes the scard to choose whether to cry pains or not but the wounded have no choice to choose.

I also noticed that the scard fly while the wounded cry.

The scard walk in inner peace but the wounded only enjoy the cold peace of pain.

The scard are not afraid of being scard but the wounded float in the fear of being wounded once again cos the scard are as bold enough to retake it just as the wounded are afraid of refacing it.

Scars are real, wounds are not always what they are.

Scars can choose not to change their identity, wounds do not choose, they change over time.

Wounds are deep cuts but scars are deeper cuts.

Scars last forever, wounds only last.

Scars never heal, wounds are always sealed.

Scars are in the past, but wounds abound afresh.

…the list goes on never wanting to end near but back to the question, what makes you you? Fresh hot wounds or past scars?

It is never worth it when people fight to take control of the present and future neglect the realities of the past claiming that we cannot take control of the past. As good as that may sound, listen! your past is already in control of your today. You might object but think of these- your confidence level, know-how, believes, size, emotional strength… what shaped them?

Scars never bleed but they issue from bleeding wounds.

If you neglect your scars today be ready to get wounds that might never become scars.

What makes you who you are is what you have inside of you and not your outward appearance.

Your countenance is trash. It’s your content that catches my fancy.

The you in you today came-by from the scars on you.

It takes a scar to be a star.

Don’t ever blame yourself for what you are today, cos if there is any reason to blame your state on someone or something, then you must have a scar. Take that scar with a right handed grip and tweak yourself into the star you ought to be.

Never get yourself wounded because it might spoil your looks but if you ever get wounded, be ready to bleed enough in order to get a scar that’s capable of transforming you into a star.

Use the scars on you to know who you truly are, what you are and where you are knowing fully well that you can go to wherever you want to get to from anywhere you are but if you do not know where you are, how can you tell whether your destiny is southward, forward or rightward?

Heal your wounds because they can seal your fate, read your stars and they will lead you and show off your scar for they are you.

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10 Things Everyone Should Learn From Nigerian Politicians

Nigerian politicians are very inspiring and this makes them good role models but most persons would love to deny this fact and concentrate solely on their bad side which is mainly because all they want is to see them fail. In this post, I’m going to be sharing some of the qualities of a typical Nigerian politician that any wise motivational speaker would urge you to possess in order to achieve success in life. They are:

OPTIMISM: I was taken aback in the previous election held when I noticed that those who contested for the presidency was over thirty in number and most of them could not even poll up to five thousand votes nationwide. Interestingly, before the election one of the candidates that fell into this category was asked- “do you see yourself winning?” His reply was a bold yes and I was force to consider him to be a force to reckon with. Although he never won but the confidence level was something else. Optimism is expecting a bigger miracle in the face of a big obstacle.

SENSITIVITY: Nigeria politicians do not need proofs to believe whatever they think because the just know it but just wait for them to go and get proofs. Sensitivity needs no proofs before believing, it believes before proving.

PERSISTENCE: I love this one so much cos we see so many politicians coming back to re-contest again and again despite all their previous failures. Success will always come to ex-failures who decided not to quit.

IMPORTUNITY: This is very much connected to their persistent nature and it happens to be the main reason why the court of appeals happen to declare the winners of over 99.9% of all the electoral positions. In fact, the opposition on the losing side must go to court. Yes.Quiters don’t win and winners quit only after winning.

STRONG: To be a politician in Nigeria, you must be ready to be criticized, insulted, envied, attacked etc. Only the strong can struggle, the weak get strangled.

REALISTIC: Most persons do not like facing reality when it matters most but Nigerian politicians would always set up a committee to look into the problem at hand before saying, “let’s go back to the drawing board”.With detailed facts, you prevail but without details, you remain detained in your travail.

HOPE RAISERS: The only reason why people commit suicide is hopelessness. With Nigerian politicians, be sure of a reduction in suicidal rate because they can take your hopes over the moon with euphony by promising a future flowing with milk and honey. The gift of hope is the strength to cope.

VOCAL AND LOUD: Argument and war of words forms the order of the day in Nigeria’s polity. Hence black can be yellow at any point. Voicelessness is choicelessness. If you can’t talk your way out, you will be worked out.

EVERYTHING COUNTS ATTITUDE: This is bad but good too. No matter how small a contract or an opportunity might be a Nigerian politician won’t let go. Every small addition is more.

HUMBLE: Those guys are extremely humble no wonder they can run, re-run, return, run again and re-run again for a particular position without saying, “Hey, I’m bigger than that position, I’ve been there twice”. At times, they go as far as contesting for less prestigious positions.The lowly can never be lowered, they can only be hired.

I just have to end here, but believe me, there are more qualities you can be copied [positively] from Nigerian politicians for your own good.

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5 Tips On How To Be The Best

Do you admire those ahead of you? Do you want to be like them or would you like to become better than they are? To be the best, you’ve got to be better than the best. You can’t just get there overnight. If it were so easy, we would’ve all been there. Becoming the best is a step by step process which I’m going to show you here. So what are the processes?

FACE REALITY: Most people are not really honest with themselves and that’s why they can never be honest with others. In whatever situation you find yourself. face the reality of it as the reality remains the beginning of your success but success is never achieved at the beginning. Facing reality is not self condemnation neither is it dreaming with limitations, it entails you knowing your current status, weaknesses, strengths, those ahead of you, your haves and have nots etc. The findings you make shouldn’t hurt you because they are not your end, they are mere bends.

DISCOVER YOUR SPIRITUALITY: You just finished facing reality now it’s time for spirituality.Bishop David Abioye said self discovery is the most important discovery because our discovery determines our display. He also said, If you do not have a backing, they will break your backbone. Facing reality is the humility which that gives you access to your real identity. Andy Stanley said something which sounded like this(paraphrase)- it’s dangerous to think of yourself more highly than you are but it’s more dangerous to think less of yourself than God does. Another wise man also said, the most dangerous man in the world is a mountain man with a valley mentality. All I’m saying, is believe that with God, you can do all things through Christ who strengthens you.

KNOW MORE: This is where the actual journey begins. It’s a journey into a whole new world that’s why you had to process your identity card earlier. They say knowledge is power which is to say your placement and status today is a function of what you know. The only way to be better than the best is to know more than he knows so go for know because it is what you know that makes you a show.

DO MORE/TALK LESS: A boaster will always amount to nothing. Do not speak about your abilities but let your abilities speak about you. Those who talk too much hardly succeed because they always leak out the little they know hence it’s been said, empty vessels make the loudest noise.

FACE CHALLENGES: All tests are stepping stones and without tests, there can never be a testimony. To be the best, you have to beat the best but you can never achieve conquest until you come out of your nest to test yourself against the best.

In conclusion, we all came into the world with equal capacities and resources but your present state is as a result of what you did with your yesterday and your tomorrow will result out of what you do today. You can be No. 1 tomorrow and You will be No. 1 tomorrow is you make the right moves today.

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How To End Your Year On a High Note

Your position at the end of a race or a journey is what determines whether it was a success or not. Starting the year on a low ebb is permitted but in finishing, you ought to finish strong. You don’t wanna look back and say- “had I known”.

The end of the year is normally associated with lots of financial favours, bonuses and the likes and I want to use this post to suggest how you can make the most of all your income this season and make the year a memorable one. So what are those things?

A life without debts is a life without fear or hypertension. Whenever you’re indebted, you lose you peace, freedom and dignity. I believe nothing will make you happier this season than clearing all your debt load. Even if you can’t clear it up, try to slash the magnitude.

Not just any trip but a special one where you can make new friends, take photos, learn something new… preferably in an exotic location.

Have you ever thought of creating a special event that you would live to remember? Okay let me give you ideas- your first date, your first flight, your first cruise…

The happiest days of my life or should I say the happy days of my life are those spent with my immediate family. No matter how difficult your family might be, they can never be more difficult than anywhere else. Spending quality time with YOUR FAMILY at the end of the year is something to look forward to and it will be more fun if you can bring back the memories of the good times you had with them at your prime. MAKE OTHERS HAPPY: Whatever you do for yourself dies with you but what you do for others lives on after you. In the midst of the fun that the season offers, always remember that there is some hearts out there that need to be touched, some bodies that need clothing, some stomachs also needs to be fed. You can always be useful to others and also note that there is joy in creating joy. If you still think making other people can’t add anything to you, it’s because you’ve never put a smile on someone’s face.

I don’t really buy the idea of buying here and there. It’s so childish! What’s that thing you’ve always wanted, hoped, prayed or begged for? Something that will shapen your life, ease all your struggles, last a lifetime with your heart… Go get it now.

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How To Set Goals

I want to become a doctor! Is that a goal or an ordinary statement?

Not all goals are goals as most of the goals people set do not carry the major characteristics of a goal. For your goals to attain a befitting structure, there are some aspects of goal setting that needs to be attended to and they’re

Everyone wants to make it in life and that’s a good one but I do not expect you to have that as your goal because there are so many ways with which one can make it. Being specific talks about narrowing down your goal to the least level attainable e.g if you’ve decided to make it in life as a doctor, you also need to specificy the kind of doctor you’re hoping to become…

TIMING: You want to become a surgeon? But when?

Timing is key to whatever thing we do as it always spurs us to work hard in order to keep up with time.

ADDING EXTENSIONS: By extensions, I mean you being able to point out the key areas you want to make your mark for example, providing the care for HIV.

PLAN: Just as we all know, if you do not plan, you plan to fail and failure you’d get. Always set strategies on how to achieve your goals.

WRITE IT DOWN: This has always been the most neglected aspect of goal setting despite being the most important of all the aspects involved. After writing, always make sure you keep reading it from time to time. When you keep-on reading your goals, you always get motivated to do more in order to achieve them when the time comes.

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